Getting in instead of getting out
If we want to consciously get out of something, the first goal is to break old patterns, to change ways of thinking and acting. After all, one does not want to relapse. But this is often not so easy. Where do these patterns come from that keep us imprisoned for so long and make life difficult for us?
Most of our behaviours come from a very early time in our lives. Scientists in pre- and perinatal medicine, as well as neuroscientists and behavioural researchers have found that the first years of our lives, including pregnancy, are immensely influential in our later behaviour. This is where the foundation stone is laid, the first software is written and stored on the hard disk of our subconscious. A purely biological process. Experiences are made, evaluated and a reaction pattern is developed based on the evaluation. Every (first) experience we make is linked to a feeling and stored in the brain. In similar situations later on, the stored feeling is recalled. But what if exactly this programme stands in our way later in life? The more intense a feeling was (is), the more clearly it remains anchored in our memory. Patterns, strategies, experiences that were made at this early stage of life were useful and helpful at that time. Back then as a baby, as a toddler. Even the world and perception of an unborn child no longer corresponds to that of an adult. Nevertheless, all these experiences and the resulting patterns and behaviour patterns are still valid and present until we change them.
Change? Yes, but how do I change these patterns? Nearly everyone has experienced the experience of wanting to get rid of an old annoying habit or not wanting to react in certain situations in the same way as before. Sometimes it even leads to addiction. These can be small or big - from addiction to sweets, chocolate, coffee, work, shopping to cigarettes, alcohol and other addictions.
All this is based on something that is deliberately often inaccessible. The unconscious is connected to our body. There is an interaction between body, emotions and thoughts. To get behind the scenes of our behaviour patterns and emotions we have our body. But this also means to confront ourselves with the emotions associated with it. These are not always pleasant and welcome. Nevertheless this is the only way - via the body. Therefore get in instead of getting out. If we do not turn to our emotions and the body sensations, but push them aside, which happens very often, then we ignore ourselves.